Man Rule: No Conversations in a Shared Shower Situation.

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 7/29/2009 06:50:00 PM

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This is a serious issue. I workout at 24 Hour Fitness and whenever I have to go somewhere afterwards, I usually shower there. If you've never been, the shower room setup is exactly how it was in Jr. High or High School. Although there are dividers, there are no doors or curtains. This isn't really a problem for most guys as long as you are comfortable in your skin and your sexuality. I don't have any problems with this setup, but as I walked in to shower today I was shocked to see two men having a full on convo as they were drying off. As I showered I couldn't help but feel that this situation was just not right.

I believe it should be a generally accepted "Man Rule" that whilst in the shower room, you must keep your head at eye level and shower at the most efficient rate possible. No lingering...and definitely no conversations. Come on guys, can't you just wait until you get back to your locker?

Long Beach Project

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 6/28/2009 10:55:00 PM

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I went to a church service tonight for the first time in quite a while. Laziness, Anxiety, Guilt, Fear, Satan...I'm really not quite sure what has been keeping me away. But i've definitely been missing out on meeting the full potential that God has in store for my life. It's not that I've fallen away, its just that I have so much more to work on before "maximizing" all of the gifts that God has given me. I'm glad I went.

And the LB Project is also very cool as well. It wasn't a very typical service and I learned some things that I didn't expect I would. They will be in my prayers. http://www.thegardenlb.org/

I love how He is patient and loving, no matter where we are in our lives :)

R.I.P. Max

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 6/21/2009 12:03:00 PM

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Today I lost the best dog in the world. Max has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. He has been a son to Eddie for the past 19 years or so. I'm gonna miss him but I am glad he no longer has to suffer. It's crazy to think that he is the closest thing to me that I've ever lost in my life. As sad as it is, I guess this was the best way possible for him to go.

Day 26 & Day 27: Final Days in the Homeland

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 5/30/2009 12:40:00 PM

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We pretty much slept in for most of the day, only getting up to eat. The plan was to play some basketball with the locals but it started to really pour around the time we were going to. At night we had a hardcore karaoke session until around midnight. At the end of the song it would judge your performance and give you a score...apparently I lost all of my singing talent once I hit puberty. We got to spend time with Alex's cousins and the rest of the family. One of the cousins is this little 10 year old girl named KC. If I were ever to have a younger sister or daughter, I would want her to be just like KC. She reminded me a lot of my cousins back home, Hannah and Rylee. She has cracked me up quite a few times since I've been here. And I nicknamed her "Tarsier", which is the smallest monkeys in the world and live only here in the PI.

After karaoke we went out to Makati around midnight. I was really surprised we were even going out because of how late it was, but it was totally worth it. All I can really say is that it was one of those, "What happens here stays here" nights. We started off at the Hard Rock, had some drinks, and watched a cover band do American Pop songs. Then we made our way to this bar called "Absinthe" and danced around there for a little. Apparently the manager or bartender thought we were cool so they started pouring us shots. It was my first time having Absinthe, but I didn't see any green fairies like the story goes. We did some more partying after that, got split up for a couple of hours, and then ended up getting home around 7am this morning. After we met back up, all I know was that we were somewhere in Manila, it was raining super hard, and we spent about an hour trying to get a taxi. Most of the taxis were already occupied due to the fact that it was already morning and people were going to work!

Once we got back to Alex's house, everyone was already up having breakfast so we sat down and ate. An our or so later I was already back in a cab and off to the airport. No aircon and I went to the wrong terminal, once again! Sounds about right...

What a fun night to end my trip here in the homeland.

Day 25: New Family in Pasig

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 5/28/2009 10:50:00 PM

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I flew into Manila from Puerto today and took a taxi to Pasig. On the plane over here, I met a couple who basically pimped their daughter out to me. They were extremely nice, wealthy looking people who were on vacation as well. During our conversation, once they found out I was single, they busted out the camera and started showing me pictures of their daughters, haha! So funny!

So once in Pasig, I waited at a Jolibee close to where the house I was visiting was, for Chris and Alex to pick me up. Even though I was expecting them, I was still kind of shocked when they showed up. It's just so crazy that we're here on another continent, 7,000 miles away from home, just hanging out. I haven't seen a familiar face in a month, which is probably the longest ever for me, and it just felt good. I'm really glad I came here to finish off my trip.

As soon as I walked into the house, I got back the feeling that I left behind when I left my grandparent's house. Once again it was a big house, full of a lot of family members. I've really gained an appreciation and love for family since being here in the PI. Even though nothing exciting was going on around me, I just loved every second of it.

Tonight we went out to some club called Manor. The music was good and current and it was fun having some friends with me. I haven't really got to enjoy "going out" as much because I've been by myself. But being with friends takes away that added pressure of meeting random people. I'm glad I got to see this side of the Philippines.

Day 23 & 24: Back In The City Again

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 5/27/2009 09:42:00 PM

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Well, I couldn't catch a flight to Northern Palawan as I originally hoped. Because I had to come back to Puerto Princesa, I left myself with a couple of options:

#1- Drive 9 hours north to El Nido, only to have to make the same drive back a day or two later.
#2- Fly from Puerto to Manila and then fly to Busuanga in hopes of getting to spend a day or so there.

I've been feeling a little under the weather since getting back from Sabang, so I'm not extremely motivated to do either. Luckily tonight I got a call from my good friend from college, Chris Sisson who just so happens to be visiting the Philippines as well with his Pinoy best friend, Alex. They are in Manila so I decided that I would hangout with them for my last few days here. Alex's aunt lives here and they are cool with me staying, so that is another huge plus.

After thinking about it, I'm not really sure why I even asked to stay. I have enough money to afford a nice hotel room for the rest of my stay and I'm not the "couch surfing" type. I really don't want to be a burden on the family and I hope they won't have to go out of their way too much to accommodate me. I guess I just miss being around family. Eating meals with people. Making plans to do something with someone else. And I am SUPER excited to see some familiar faces! I can't wait! It should be a good ending to a great trip.

Other than deciding to go back to Manila early, not much else has really happened the past couple of days. My main highlights have been living with a mouse in my room that I decided to name "Marty", figuring out the "local" cost of a tricycle ride, and not being able to find a body wash without a "whitening" agent. I know its not much, but not everyday can be a huge adventure!

Marty the mouse decided to come out one night and run around when I was trying to go to bed. I kept seeing his head pop out from under the other bed and then hearing him scurry across the room. I got up, somewhat freaked out, and tried to get him out of my room to no avail. I caught him mid-scurry once and he literally jumped in the air, landed awkwardly, and then hid again under the bed. The look on his face actually made me laugh and from that point on I decided I wasn't afraid of him anymore, so I named him. Wait...I just re-read what I just wrote...I must be going a little crazy after all this solitude.

So with the tricycles, when I first arrived they originally said I had to pay 50 pesos per ride. But then I started noticing that some drivers were less bold and were charging 40. And then another only 20! So I finally decided I was going to figure out the REAL charge for a tricycle ride. My strategy was that I was going to be silent. From all my research before the trip, I was told multiple times to ask "How much?" before taking a taxi, to avoid being ripped off. It turned out that is exactly what you should do if you want the locals to know you are from out of town and you have no idea how much stuff costs around here. So I got a ride and was completely silent the whole ride. I decided I would let the driver initiate the payment process. I got out and handed him 20 pesos, waited for a second, he looked at me, i looked at him, he reached in his pocket, and gave me back 10 pesos! So from there on out I just gave everyone 10 pesos and nobody said a word about it, nice.

Lastly, since I'm going to be visiting a family, I decided to clean myself up and shave(for the second time during this trip). I went to the drugstore and the only size shaving cream was a Costco sized can that would probably last me a year. So instead of being wasteful i'd have to figure something else out. I also ran out of body wash, but literally every single bottle they sold had some sort of "skin whitening" agent in it. Since I value my brown skin, my only other option was Johnson & Johnson Baby Bath. It worked out pretty good too, because now my skin is baby soft, I was able to use it to shave, and if it gets in my eyes: No Tears!

Day 22: The 8th Wonder of the World

Posted by Brandon Lagao | Posted in | Posted on 5/25/2009 09:07:00 PM

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Something I realized last night was that this town is very, very primitive. There is no Internet, but more importantly in my case, there are no banks or ATM's. The problem with that is that I didn't plan the rest of my week out yet. I didn't pull out enough money when I was in the city to survive a whole week and I haven't even bought my plane ticket back to Manila yet. Sadly, what this means is that instead of traveling to the northern end of Palawan, I need to find a ride back to Puerto...but only after I do what I came to Sabang to do, which is see the Puerto Princesa Subterranean River.

So I got up at around 7am this morning after a rough night of sleep. The only way I was even able to sleep at all was because of the mosquito net in my room. The sad part is that even with the net, I woke up with way more bites than I went to sleep with. Vicious little bastards. But although last night wasn't favorable, it all became worth it when I realized that I was waking up in a Nipa Hut on the beach! My front yard is literally the ocean...about 10 paces and your feet are wet. Oh and did I mention it cost me about $10? Waking to the sound of crashing waves is the ONLY alarm clock for me. And the sunlight was coming through the hut floor...it was a beautiful sight to behold.



After packing my stuff up, I made a decision to try to fit in the Underground River Tour and catch a ride back to Puerto Princesa today...because there are no set bus schedules, this isn't the easiest of tasks. So from there I went to the tourist center to get my permit to enter the underground river. The locals were all super nice to me and I had some great conversations as I waited for my boat. I even talked to a guy who is going to get me on a van to head back to the city later on today, sweet.
It was a 15-20 minute boat ride to the underground river from the town. I haven't been to too many places in my 25 years on Earth, but I can honestly say that this is the most beautiful place I've ever been to in my life. The water surrounding my boat was so glossy that you would think it wasn't ever touched by another living being. And the color was unlike any color I've ever seen in the ocean. It was as if every shade of blue and green was right in front of my eyes. For a moment I was actually reminded of being at some lake in Oregon visiting my Grandma for the summer. But then I looked up and I was surrounded by big, luscious mountains and huge limestone cliffs shooting out of the water covered with the most beautiful trees, that make you wonder how in the hell they got there in the first place. The beaches to my right were also covered in what I can only describe as a "beach forest". Kind of a hybrid of a regular forest and a rainforest...on a beach!


At this point, I was lucky I was wearing my sunglasses because tears actually started flowing while I was taking in God's beautiful creation. I mean, I've teared up over beauty before, but these tears were flowing down my cheeks like two mini waterfalls. I've been known to ball at the movies ( i.e.- Remember The Titans, Antwone Fisher, Seven Pounds, Bambi...), but this was something very new to me. Although embarrassed, I was in appreciation of the moment.

We landed at the beach and I jumped off the boat into the shallow water and waved goodbye to the boatmen. From there it was about a 5 minute walk to the River. There was a big crowd of tourists waiting there to meet me. While checking in and waiting for your turn to get on a boat, you are surrounded by a bunch of monkeys just chillin' in the trees and walking around near all us tourists. I think that was my first time ever seeing a monkey outside of the San Diego Zoo... and i'm really glad that they weren't throwing their poop every where. While I waited they dressed me up like I was one of the Village People with a life jacket and hardhat. Our kayak arrived and I jumped on with about 10 other people and a tour guide who would be paddling us about 2.5 km's into the Underground River.


Inside of the Subterranean River was really cool. It's just like a huge cave with a big, calm river flowing through it. It kind of felt like being on the "Pirates of the Caribbean" ride at Disneyland (which is my favorite), except with bats and little swiftlets flying around everywhere. Throughout the tour, our guide was mostly speaking in Tagalog, but I pretty much understood everything he was saying...2o days ago I couldn't say that. Basically the guide was just explaining the rock formations and the stalactites and making jokes about them. There was a section called "The Cathedral" which had a ridiculously high ceiling and a bunch of rock figures that were supposed to look like the Virgin Mary, Angels, Jesus, and other religious figures. There was also a "Market" section where the guide pointed out different rocks that looked like fruits & vegetables...it really was more interesting then it sounds. We were also told that there are two types of water that falls from the ceiling...mineral water and "bat shit". Yes, he really said that. He even made a joke about it when we were in The Cathedral, about how they call the water coming from the ceiling "Holy Water"...but if it's not water then it must be "Holy Shit." I got a good laugh out of that one, but for the most part I tried to keep my mouth tightly closed.

So after I was done with the tour, since I had enough time, instead of taking the 20 minute boat ride back, I really wanted to hike back on one of the trails. There are two trails that go back to Sabang, "The Monkey Trail" and "The Jungle Trail". I read about it in Lonely Planet and I know I wanted to try it out. I don't really know what to say, Jungle Trekking just sounded like a great experience to me! So from the River, I headed to the Monkey Trail. I immediately realized I made a few mistakes:

#1- I was wearing my flip-flops.

#2- I skipped breakfast.

#3- I WAS ALL ALONE!

In my head I imagined a nice, clean, and clear trail, that was flat and filled with cute animals and beautiful jungle flora. It was supposed to be a great time for nature photo opp's! In reality, it was a steep, very secluded trail that could could have used a little more trailblazing, and a lot more guidance. Maybe this will help provide a little more insight: Right as I started the journey, there was a HUGE monitor lizard just chilling right in front of the path I was about to enter. Like seriously a Komodo Dragon sized lizard...aren't those things dangerous?!

One other thing that came as a complete surprise to me, was that NOBODY else was taking the trail back. Literally, zero people. And after walking for a little, I soon realized that I was ALL BY MYSELF IN A STRAIGHT-UP JUNGLE! The very first part of the trail is made up of a bunch of steep, wooden stair sets and quite a few "bridges" made of a couple slabs of wood. Since the jungle I was hiking through was on a karst, it was a very steep climb for a good 30 minutes. The steps were spaced much too far apart and it seemed like at any moment one could give out. I mean seriously, how do you take care of wooden stairs that are out in the middle of the jungle?! I wasn't naive enough to think that there are handyman checking on them every morning. I figured the only way you find out if a bridge needs to be fixed or a step needs a little repair out here, is if it gives way on someone. And at that point it's already too late for me now isn't it? At this point I was just thanking God that my parents talked me into purchasing travel insurance (as if anyone would find me out there anyways).


I'll just say this: This decision was a mistake. I should have worn shoes. I should have told someone at the ranger station that I was going in. I should have had breakfast. And I most definitely SHOULD NOT have gone about this alone. I'm not too proud to admit that I was pretty scared for the majority of the time and contemplated turning around more than once. The only thing that really stopped me was my pride and stubbornness to finish what I started. The noises coming from the surrounding trees were loud and eerie. There were huge bugs everywhere. And although this morning, before the trek, I was hoping get some great pictures of jungle fauna, at this point I was really hoping that I wouldn't run into any. Snakes, lizards, monkeys, huge spiders...none of these I wanted to see. But I did.

I just put my head down and started trekking at a very brisk pace. It is a 5km hike back to town and is supposed to take about 2 hours. Whenever I had enough room, I would run. There was really no way of knowing if I was going in the right direction except for the faint outline of a trail and every so often I would run into little cement stumps on the ground. Now I know what Bear Grylls and Survivorman go through! I can imagine this being an extremely fun experience with a buddy, but not so much alone.

Eventually I hit the ocean and most of my fear went away. At that point I could actually enjoy myself a little bit because I at least knew where I was in relation to the town and if all else failed, I could just swim the rest of the way (although it would have been a very long swim). Once I got out of the middle of the jungle, it was no longer dark and I honestly felt like I was Harry Potter escaping the Forbidden Forest. I finished the hiking part in a little over an hour, haha! But then I hit an obstacle that Lonely Planet nor the tourist center seemed to think important enough to warn me about. There is a deep river, with a strong current, that separates you from the town! At first I followed the sign that said, "This Way To Sabang", but it dead ends at a swampy section of the river...damn liars. So I went back to the beach and walked to the end, only to be stopped again by the same river. I had no idea how deep it actually was, all I know is that I couldn't see the bottom and the current was very strong. Plus I had my cell phone, wallet, camera, and room key...swimming it just wasn't going to happen. So I headed back to the swamp portion to see if there was something I missed. I tried crossing from there, but it was deep also and I couldn't help but think that there might be crocodiles or something lurking about. After turning around, I spotted what looked to be a little trail, so I tried that route. Um, definitely not a trail. I found myself surrounded by Mangrove and wading through knee-deep water. Once I finally hit what was a dead-end to me (I wasn't about to just force myself through a bunch of bushes!), I went back to the beach. I sat there on that beach like a castaway sent to exile island. I couldn't for the life of me figure out how I was supposed to get back. I even contemplated floating across on some parts that used to make up an old boat. I was stuck there for about an hour until I saw someone from town in the distance and waved him over. The guy who came to my rescue was a local who didn't speak any English. He realized that I wasn't planning on walking through the river, so he picked me up in a little canoe-like boat and dropped me off on the other side...ego buster.


What an amazing experience! I would NEVER do it again alone, but wow, it is awesome to look back on. This place is so gorgeous. The water, the plants, and the people are all so beautiful. The weather is like San Diego on it's best days. And not to mention I got to see what they call the 8th Wonder of the World today. I kind of wish that my trip ended today because I am pretty sure I couldn't end it on a higher note.
After I got back to town I met up with a van that would take me back to Puerto...no more Jeepneys for me! But once again I was waiting for 2 hours after the scheduled time to leave. While I waited I had a good conversation with the driver. His sister was apparently a Top 10 Miss Earth Finalist a few years back and he had a lot of questions on what he had to do to get work in the U.S. I had to break the news to him that it would be a difficult task for him to start a new life in America.
Finally, the rest of the van passengers arrived. I was sitting in the back just waiting and right as they got on and noticed me, they were so excited to see me. It was a little overwhelming. There was 6 girls and 2 guys all about my age, from Manila. They all worked at the same place where they do some of the HR outsourcing for a few U.S. companies. One of the girls was even forward enough to introduce herself as, "Hi, I'm Single." It was pretty funny and made for a much better trip back to Puerto then it was getting here. Thank you Jesus for such an amazing day! Now I need to figure out my plans for the next few days...